I have been meaning to write this article for sometime now. However, I was hesitant as no two situations are the same and I’m no expert. But like always I would like to share what’s in my heart and my experience of managing my son for almost 3 years all by myself. Social media makes my life look pretty good and I can’t deny that it has been good and I’m blessed to be making a living out of what I love. But it’s not easy. I’m not able to give as much attention to my son as I would like to and the guilt gives me many sleepless nights. I have had days of complete meltdowns and I have screamed and pulled my hair. There are a lot of days I have taken refuge in bed and then days where I haven’t wanted to go back home. Continue Reading
I have always loved wearing sarees but I started working towards bringing the saree back when I wrote the article on the 100 Day Saree Pact last year. I found myself wearing sarees and handloom more and more, especially after my mom passed away. I don’t even know if there is any connection (she had stopped wearing sarees as she grew older) but maybe it’s my way of holding on to my roots and memories. And, however insignificant it might be, I decided to work towards promoting it in my own small way through my blog and Instagram. Continue Reading
I will let the pictures do the talking for this gorgeous lehenga from Ekmit.
All pictures have been clicked by Abhinav Chandel at safdarjung Tomb, Delhi.
As I turn 37 and look back, I feel this is the happiest I have ever been. And no, I don’t have a stable job and it eats me up on most days as I keep trying to figure what I can do to enhance my skills to keep an income coming. But what keeps me content and happy is that I have chosen to write my own narrative and I have taken the power away from most people to affect me. And I also feel that every year it keeps getting better. Last year I wrote about what I do to love myself (read here) and this year I just thought of penning down a few new learnings –
1) Not all friendships last forever, and that’s okay. Probably the biggest lesson I learned this year. Everyone evolves differently and a point comes when you can no longer connect with the person or your values and fundamental beliefs don’t match any more. It hurts a lot but letting go is the only way to be. Continue Reading
We wanted to take Kabir somewhere during the summer holidays and it was something we were doing together as a family after four years. However, because his father’s travel dates to India were not confirmed and I was recovering from typhoid, planning in advance wasn’t possible. I booked the tickets to Andamans and a 2-night stay at Havelock (thinking we would head for it the moment we land at Port Blair). I didn’t talk to anyone to find out how to go about the trip due to lack of time. In any case, I always tend to travel without any planning and that good luck streak had to end somewhere. Continue Reading
I have now been freelancing for more than 3 years. My work involves fulltime blogging and Instagramming apart from managing a couple of social media accounts for clients. I’m my own boss and I don’t think I can have it any other way. The five years I worked in a corporate set up, I was surprised that I was constantly told how to dress up so that I don’t attract too much attention and senior women in HR would put me down just because they had the authority to but no reason to. I acknowledged that maybe I’m too sensitive to work in a set up like that so doing my own thing was the only choice I’m left with. While freelancing comes with a lot of good things, it has a lot of disadvantages too specially if you don’t have any intern or team. Continue Reading
My job brought me to Gurgaon for the first time in 2001, there was no public transport to speak of and getting from one place to another was really challenging. I still didn’t dare to learn how to drive as I took all the women-can’t-drive jokes a bit seriously. But, years later, when I actually did learn how to drive, I was terrified as I would get worked up with aggressive honking or embarrassed about not being able to park correctly. Only people who are afraid of driving will understand what I’m trying to express. I just couldn’t get myself used to the constant changing gears along with the clutch while dealing with the traffic specially during peak hours and malls where one needs to drive on the ramp to exit.
I would dream of automatic cars, but they were unheard of and available only in high end models. After a couple of months, I gave up. However, when I was in the Philippines, the need to drive was even more as public transport was really expensive but automatic cars were more easily available than manual cars. On the insistence from a friend, I learned how to drive, and it has been one of the best things I have done for myself. I felt so empowered and independent. Continue Reading
I’m very unsavvy when it comes to technology. It’s not that I’m not keen on it, I’m just bad at understanding it. But as a content creator, I have to rely heavily on it too. I’m always on a lookout for products which make my life easier rather than complicate it. Honestly, I don’t even have the bandwidth to sit and understand the nuances of how something as basic as a camera works, I need it to work in a way that I can take good pictures and play with them to deliver results that my profession requires. I recently got hold of the Canon EOS M50 mirrorless camera. To begin with I resisted using it, but it didn’t take too long for me to give in. Even though I only shoot on auto mode, I still thought of listing down some of the features I found useful – Continue Reading
I have been fortunate enough to never have really been addicted to smoking other than a brief phase in the middle where I smoked 5-6 cigarettes a day for about a year. But I have seen friends and family suffer continuously under the grip of its unrelenting addiction. Everyone wants to quit but most people can’t, no matter how hard they try.
I have seen my brother suffer at the hands of smoking at close quarters and know fully well that it isn’t just an innocent addiction but one that can ruin lives because of its impact on cardiovascular health that can lead to heart ailments. The only saving grace – if I can call it that – is that cigarettes don’t have any psycho active substances. Back to my brother – he suffered at the hands of this addiction for years until he couldn’t function normally anymore and had to quit. He was determined to take charge of his health so he managed. But most people aren’t that fortunate. Continue Reading
Are you a digital-nomad? Somebody who runs complex coding from a permanent location? Or do you simply switch the laptop on for Netflix? The truth is, choosing an ideal laptop is like choosing a life partner! You have to feel comfortable with your laptop. It must match your work/leisure demands in the long run and be dispensable for every job you want it to do.
Life has become taxing with work, unending domestic chores and not to mention, being a mother to a ten-year. I thought it would get easier as Kabir grows older and in some ways it has but for most part, I’m more stressed. Maybe it’s because of the sudden increase in pressure from school regarding academics or his emotional needs or both. And then there is pressure of being a smart mom in just the way Kabir looks at me like I have solution for everything! So here are some of my secret hacks to that lovely and not-so-well managed home, without losing sleep…aah well, at least not all of it 😉 Continue Reading