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Mom on the Run

Are you mom enough?

For the soul, Parenting - Anupriya kapur - August 20, 2015

When I got pregnant (really really long back that is) and people got to know that I’m, something around me had changed. My every single step was closely watched by people who genuinely care and people who don’t.

Everyone had an opinion and they made it a point to let me know. It was all about how healthy/pale I looked, how I plan to give birth (natural or c-sec), how prepared I was to nurture the baby, do I plan to breastfeed or not, chose cloth nappies over diapers, plan to cradle the baby to sleep or let it cry itself to sleep, the list was endless. But even after 8 years of giving birth some of those things have stayed with me.

My pregnancy wasn’t very pleasant and I had gestational diabetes in the 3rd trimester. I was stupidly hell bent on giving birth naturally because I wanted to prove a lot of people wrong (that I was too thin so c-sec is the only option! and I fell for it!). I managed alright with epidural to my rescue. I was lauded for having a “normal” delivery. And I wonder why and how “natural” became “normal”. Aren’t we being condescending towards women who have to or choose c-sec over natural birth? And what did I do special by giving birth the way it should be that it became special? “Natural or c-sec?”, why do we women ask each other this very irrelevant question?

Because of post-delivery complications, I had a HB count of 5 and I was on strong medication, I could hardly breastfeed. My son refused to latch on, no matter how hard I tried. I finally gave up (after pumping milk from my breasts after a month) as I wasn’t getting any rest I needed to recuperate. I would have killed myself if I hadn’t stopped trying. But everyone around me (including strangers in a mall) started looking down upon me like I was committing the biggest crime in the world by putting my son on formula. It took me months to get over that guilt.

During the whole process of pregnancy and giving birth, a woman is struggling with so much – getting to know organs that she didn’t know existed, engorged breasts, continued bleeding, a stomach which looks like a burst balloon, stretch marks, smell of curdled milk, sleep deprivation, baby’s farts (which can be quite explosive), it’s all so overwhelming and at least one thing we can do is be tolerant, keep our opinions to ourselves (unless we see someone doing something which a hazardous to the mother and/or baby) and let her experience her own journey the way she wants to. At some point, aren’t we all in the same boat in any case?

Tags | baby, birth, bleeding, breastfeeding, c-sec, curdled milk, engorged breasts, gestational diabetes, natural birth, normal delivery, pregnancy, pregnant, stretch marks
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6 Comments

  • Shveta Verma September 8, 2015 at 7:22 am

    Once again Anupriya…a very simple, candid yet a thought provoking blog…Well done!!

    Very rightly said that My Breast, My Baby, My Business..but I guess in India people perceive this really differently…it is “Your business is My business”. We are experts at giving unsolicited advises, judging people and forming & giving opinions without being considerate to the others. Hope we learn and change the course soon!!

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  • Sharmistha September 8, 2015 at 7:23 am

    Hey Anupriya , I have seen u go through that phase… And in the simplest way I can say- hats off to you… U were incredible and continuing to be an incredible mom … Love this ‘real’ write up, almost went back in time … God bless

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  • RASHMI BALI September 8, 2015 at 7:48 am

    Wow this article was so nostalgic for me. Actually felt like a walk down memory lane. Each and every symptom described is what I actually went through in terms of the pregnancy nd post. The only difference was that I never paid heed to any enquires or remarks concerned with the process of being a first time mom. I relied on the guidance of medical experts and no other person for my baby nd me. I’m glad I did that because Only a mother can ensure she is doing the best for her child with whatever options she has. Today my son is almost 20 he’s fit with a gods grace and ladies my only advise is believe in yourself. You could never do yourself any harm if you have a clear vision and belief in life. Do t allow people to fog you’re brains. They are not worth it and you don’t need it. Just smile your way through all the if’s and but’s people have in abundance to offer to us. “You know better “!

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    • RASHMI BALI September 8, 2015 at 7:49 am

      Excuse the typo.

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  • Vibha Dutta September 8, 2015 at 8:00 am

    Thanks Anupriya for this ‘straight from the heart’ article.

    I couldn’t agree more with what you have written…however, since the time I became a Mom, I find myself tempted to ask the same questions (mentioned in ur note) to other new Moms…and then I stop myself. Guess its natural to be critical when one has gone through an experience as intense as motherhood. But we do need to bring about a change and not be judgmental about other women.

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  • Sudhir December 21, 2016 at 10:14 am

    “WOW” is the only word that I had after reading this and title of the post was like icing on the cake. Too short and too candid.

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