Posts for For the soul Category

Things I’ve learned as I turn 37

For the soul - Anupriya kapur - July 7, 2018

As I turn 37 and look back, I feel this is the happiest I have ever been. And no, I don’t have a stable job and it eats me up on most days as I keep trying to figure what I can do to enhance my skills to keep an income coming. But what keeps me content and happy is that I have chosen to write my own narrative and I have taken the power away from most people to affect me. And I also feel that every year it keeps getting better. Last year I wrote about what I do to love myself (read here) and this year I just thought of penning down a few new learnings –

1) Not all friendships last forever, and that’s okay. Probably the biggest lesson I learned this year. Everyone evolves differently and a point comes when you can no longer connect with the person or your values and fundamental beliefs don’t match any more. It hurts a lot but letting go is the only way to be. Continue Reading

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Pros and cons of freelancing

For the soul - Anupriya kapur - June 19, 2018

I have now been freelancing for more than 3 years. My work involves fulltime blogging and Instagramming apart from managing a couple of social media accounts for clients. I’m my own boss and I don’t think I can have it any other way. The five years I worked in a corporate set up, I was surprised that I was constantly told how to dress up so that I don’t attract too much attention and senior women in HR would put me down just because they had the authority to but no reason to. I acknowledged that maybe I’m too sensitive to work in a set up like that so doing my own thing was the only choice I’m left with. While freelancing comes with a lot of good things, it has a lot of disadvantages too specially if you don’t have any intern or team.  Continue Reading

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How to manage single motherhood

For the soul, Parenting - Anupriya kapur - April 12, 2018

I have been meaning to write this article for sometime now. However, I was hesitant as no two situations are the same and I’m no expert. But like always I would like to share what’s in my heart and my experience of managing my son for almost 3 years all by myself. Social media makes my life look pretty good and I can’t deny that it has been good and I’m blessed to be making a living out of what I love. But it’s not easy. I’m not able to give as much attention to my son as I would like to and the guilt gives me many sleepless nights. I have had days of complete meltdowns and I have screamed and pulled my hair. There are a lot of days I have taken refuge in bed and then days where I haven’t wanted to go back home. Continue Reading

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In the fight for Wakanda, gender equality wins

For the soul - Anupriya kapur - April 4, 2018

About two years back I watched a Ted Talk by Christopher Bell called ‘Bring on the female superheroes’. It left me stunned. It argues that the position of women in our society is less social conditioning but more a capitalist agenda. And who has ever won that fight? It was so demotivating. You can change a regressive government by voting them out of power but how do you fight the entire machinery of commerce that wants to make sure women ‘stay in their place’ so they can continue to profit from it. If it seems far-fetched, I invite you to watch that talk (it’s one of the most powerful talks and not a rant). Continue Reading

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Learning to unlearn

For the soul, Parenting - Anupriya kapur - February 22, 2018

Often, I have suspected, understanding life is directly correlated with unlearning a lot of what we have been led to believe. 

The ability of our mind to process life and put it into neat little boxes never ceases to amaze me. Whereas life itself is interconnected at every level. That the mind will trick you is something I ought to know by now. But it still manages to pull one over on me every now and again. 

Over the last few months, I had been receiving a few negative comments about my sponsored posts. Unbeknownst to me, they had apparently had an affect on me and subconsciously I also started looking at sponsored posts as something that was a break in the flow of an Instagram feed which is an honest representation of my life.  Continue Reading

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Slow down, you move too fast

For the soul - Anupriya kapur - January 31, 2018

In the last few months, work has suddenly become very hectic. Don’t get me wrong, I am not complaining, rather pointing out an irony. You see, my blogging began from the conversations that I used to have with myself. I translated those into articles and it seemed to have resonated with some people. Now that work and Kabir and growth plans have all spiked in demand at the same point in time, I realised that the conversations with myself had almost dried up. I used to think this was blogger’s/writer’s block and I cannot seem to write anything meaningful. I struggled with this for a while until I discovered that slowing down is one very crucial component that I had been missing. I wasn’t taking time to pause between things and that began affecting me and my work.

However, I had the meaning of slowing down in my head, wrong. It doesn’t and cannot possibly mean to get away from responsibilities and a vacation, it is about taking out some bit of time every single day to soak and reflect. That’s the only way to grow and evolve. I try, even though I keep losing track but find myself coming back to the following –  Continue Reading

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Failure is a good thing

For the soul, Parenting - Anupriya kapur - January 12, 2018

A couple of years back I had noticed a peculiar behaviour in my son Kabir. Every task that he did was divided in to two groups – “I’m good at it” and “I’m not good at it”. He would be frustrated and resist doing “things” he thought he wasn’t good at. He would decide it even before trying the tasks for the first time. It took me time to realise that it was the fear of failure which was stopping him. And when I look back somewhere it was my fear of failure which had trickled down to him. I would only do the things in front of him that I was good at and not let him see the side of me which wasn’t perfect. When I was baking professionally, I never showed him all the icings and cakes gone wrong. When I couldn’t park right (I still can’t), I tried to cover it by making some excuse. Continue Reading

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Joy of Sharing this Christmas with #EnfaClaus

For the soul, Parenting - Anupriya kapur - December 29, 2017

I was recently approached by Enfagrow A+ as they wanted me to be a part of their initiative of spreading happiness this Christmas by gifting toys and storybooks to an NGO (in addition, they will also distribute Enfagrow A+ tins, clothes and educational toys). I was hesitant at first as it involved getting Kabir to give away one of his favorite toys. I was pleasantly surprised when I asked Kabir, he picked up his all-time favourite truck and handed it over to me happily. I can’t deny that I felt really proud. Continue Reading

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Lessons I learned from my mom’s death

For the soul - Anupriya kapur - December 14, 2017

It’s been over a year since I lost my mom. Her death has changed me a lot, in ways I couldn’t ever imagine. We were never close and there was hardly any conversation between us for as long as I can remember. I come from a dysfunctional family and the only thing we knew was, that despite everything, there was love, and may be that’s what kept us grounded and secure. So here I’m writing about the lessons I learned from her death. I know it might seem strange that I’m writing something so close to my heart as a listicle but somehow that’s what helps me clarify my thoughts.

1) You do things for people you love and trust, even if it’s against your very being – I had shared last year how we donated her body for medical research purposes. My mother was an extremely religious person and a staunch believer in rituals. But she agreed to it (of course after much convincing) because it was my father’s wish to do so. I have seldom come across a more rational and practical man than my father. It was her faith in him which made her do so. While my father being a non-believer in rituals, temples and all things God, never stopped her from doing her own thing.  Continue Reading

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Some tips for aspiring bloggers

For the soul - Anupriya kapur - October 31, 2017

I’m writing this post as I get a lot of mails regarding things one needs to do to be a blogger. It has been almost a 3-year journey for me. I was very erratic in publishing my articles in the first year. I used to publish one article a month, sometimes not even that. I used to constantly question why  anyone would want to read what I have to write. Am I adding any value whatsoever. In the last 3 years, I have given up on my blog too many times as well. It’s not easy to put yourself and your life out there. There have been occasions of complete writer’s block and panic. There have been times when I have received little response for the article I have poured my heart into and that’s the most heart-breaking thing. I have cried a lot over it too as I didn’t know anyone in the blogging world with no one to give me direction and I felt helpless. Continue Reading

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