Posts for For the soul Category

Some tips for aspiring bloggers

For the soul - Anupriya kapur - October 31, 2017

I’m writing this post as I get a lot of mails regarding things one needs to do to be a blogger. It has been almost a 3-year journey for me. I was very erratic in publishing my articles in the first year. I used to publish one article a month, sometimes not even that. I used to constantly question why  anyone would want to read what I have to write. Am I adding any value whatsoever. In the last 3 years, I have given up on my blog too many times as well. It’s not easy to put yourself and your life out there. There have been occasions of complete writer’s block and panic. There have been times when I have received little response for the article I have poured my heart into and that’s the most heart-breaking thing. I have cried a lot over it too as I didn’t know anyone in the blogging world with no one to give me direction and I felt helpless. Continue Reading

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#SareeOnMe #WeWearCulture Photo Project with @googleindia @googlearts

Clothes, Fashion, For the soul - Anupriya kapur - September 18, 2017

Google has recently launched their Arts & Culture platform in a big way internationally. A part of its project is #SareeOnMe with Google India in which they wanted to showcase real women who wear sarees. And for me it was just overwhelming to be a part of it. The image would in the calendar to be launched in 2018 and has accomplished women from various walks of life. It has been a very humbling experience to say the least. I settled for the simplest and most inexpensive handloom saree that I have (I bought it for Rs 600 recently). I wanted to use this opportunity to prove that even in its simplest form, a handloom saree exudes elegance which is unmatched. All the pictures have been clicked by Naina Redhu. Continue Reading

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Staycation at Novotel Resorts and Spa

For the soul, Travel - Anupriya kapur - September 15, 2017

Whenever I used tell people that I haven’t ever visited Goa, I got the same reaction as I do when I tell people I haven’t watched Sholay yet! Anyway, finally, the jinx was broken and I got to visit Goa. Better still, I got to visit Goa with my son Kabir. We were invited by Novotel Resorts and Spa for a weekend staycation. And only during the staycation, I realised how much we needed it. It had been two years since we got to travel together and the recent loss of our pet was making staying at home tough. Yet, I was jittery as we were supposed to spend two days together, would Kabir enjoy his little vacation with just me around. Continue Reading

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Old Sarees, New Purpose (Part 1)

Accessories, Clothes, For the soul, Lifestyle - Anupriya kapur - August 22, 2017

I have always loved wearing sarees but I started working towards bringing the saree back when I wrote the article on the 100 Day Saree Pact last year. I found myself wearing sarees and handloom more and more, especially after my mom passed away. I don’t even know if there is any connection (she had stopped wearing sarees as she grew older) but maybe it’s my way of holding on to my roots and memories. And, however insignificant it might be, I decided to work towards promoting it in my own small way through my blog and Instagram. Continue Reading

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You are still a runner

Fitness, Fitness related, For the soul, Running Related Injuries - Anupriya kapur - August 4, 2017

The best part about running as a recreational sport is that it is inclusive. That probably explains its popularity the world over. Anybody can run, it’s that simple. And the more runners I meet, I realise how therapeutic it is and how it forces you to take note of yourself. For me, it was as if I connected with myself for the first time when I started running. Even pregnancy had failed to do that for me. However, nowadays it also comes with a lot of noise and commotion. There is pressure of what races are you signing up for, your finish time, how much you are running in a week etc. It feels good initially as a new runner but slowly the pressure builds up. Of course, it’s great if you want to improve continuously and important to strength train to remain injury free but it’s not ok to constantly compare yourself with others. Continue Reading

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10 reasons to adopt a kitten

For the soul - Anupriya kapur - July 13, 2017

I agreed to get a pet after years of being coaxed by my son. The idea of buying a pet never occurred to me. I knew I had to adopt one specially after seeing a friend’s sister who had adopted a pup. And like my son says getting a kitten has been one of the best decisions I have ever made. He’s so right. We don’t have experience of any other pet but with some insights from my son, I wanted to share why cats are simply awesome.

1) The biggest difference I have seen in the last 3 months in my house is that we are all much calmer than we used to be. Playing and cuddling with Leo releases a lot of stress. In fact, I find myself petting him more often whenever I’m anxious. Continue Reading

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Whole lotta love

For the soul - Anupriya kapur - July 4, 2017

As I turn 36, if there is one thing I want to share with everyone it would be how I have made it a habit to constantly love myself in the last two years. Even though I’m not a life coach and I’m also aware that there can not be any one way to love yourself, I can still share my experiences. Also, I say practice “loving myself”, because it doesn’t come naturally to me. If you’ve spent most of your life in self doubt and with low self esteem like I did, then I truly believe that you will have to make a conscious effort to love yourself every single day. Sometimes, I succeed and sometimes I fail miserably.

But what has changed since I started loving myself? The answer is practically everything. The relationships that I really care about improved, I learned to detach myself to a large extent from things and people who don’t matter. I found myself believing in my gut feel and following it. Now I understand, love more and hate less. I trust myself more and fear less. I’m more calm and manage my anger much better. I find it easier to let go of unimportant things. And I finally got the courage to be vulnerable and authentic. Continue Reading

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Why Strength training is important specially for girls

Fitness, Fitness related, For the soul - Anupriya kapur - June 8, 2017

I remember the time when Maine Pyaar Kiya was such a rage and all the boys I knew then, including my brothers, wanted to do push ups, one hand push ups and weighted push ups. I somehow don’t remember a single girl or I wanting to do the same. As if push ups were only a thing for boys. And it got me thinking how we never expected our girls to be strong. While calluses and bruises would be a mark of pride for boys, the same are frowned up for girls.

I lived almost 30 years of my life being under-confident and hating myself. I used to be a hyper, playful and adventurous girl till about 5th grade, post which something changed. I spent the rest of my growing years trying to please others and ensuring that I look pretty. And while there is absolutely no harm in looking pretty, but I was trying to look pretty for others and live by their standards of pretty. And when I look back and realise what has changed over the last few years that I feel better and confident in my own skin, then it has a lot to do with how strong I feel physically. It started with running, being outdoors and now CrossFit. The stronger I grow physically, the less I feel the need to look pretty. I don’t have to pretend to be confident anymore and saying “no” when required comes more easily. And I have listed down some reasons why I think every girl and woman should strength train, actually everyone should. Continue Reading

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The Dark Side

Fitness, Fitness related, For the soul, Marathons - Anupriya kapur - May 30, 2017

One of the biggest revelations during my recovery period from injury last year was that I had become obsessed with running. It was bordering an unhealthy obsession. The very thing that had given me my self worth was now controlling it. I started feeling worthless when I didn’t or couldn’t run. And that wasn’t right as “I’m a runner” didn’t define me wholly. That’s why, when I joined CrossFit to strength train, I already knew where to draw the line. To keep it 3 times a week, an hour each was my goal and I have stuck to it happily. It’s a method I have chosen now to stay fit and running will forever be for the soul.

When I look back and look around, I realise that there is a fine line between passion and an unhealthy obsession. And when I say an unhealthy obsession, it’s nothing to do with the distances one wants to train for. I have met enough and more passionate runners training for 160km and yet take life as it comes. While I have written a lot of fun articles on running and some on how running transforms you as a person (read here), this one might come across as a little harsh.

Here are some signs I really think one must watch out for and it’s not limited to running, biking or CrossFit –

1) Getting irritated if you miss a run or workout because one of the family member is sick. It might seem extreme but I have known someone who was going crazy because she missed her gym for 5 days as her child was sick.

2) When rather than being at peace, you feel life has come to a halt when, for some reason, you are unable to run longer duration.

3) You push yourself to train despite being constantly fatigued or severely injured. “No pain, no gain” isn’t always true. I did that because that’s the only thing I knew and then paid a price for it. Wearing knee pads and continuing to run rather than taking a break to fix that knee, can be really harmful in the long run.

4) When it feels more like a chore. Yes there are some bad runs/workouts and good runs/workouts but most of the time a workout or run should leave you feeling good. That’s a definitive one, if you don’t feel good after a run, give it a break.

5) Trying to squeeze in mileage by compromising on sleep. Sleeping 6-7 hours is really important. Training/workouts need to be balanced and missing one day here and there isn’t going to kill you.

6) When you are tempted to deactivate or actually deactivate social media channels as you feel miserable about missing out.

These are just somethings which came to my mind and I know list is long.  But let’s not forget that

Sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind
The race is long and in the end, it’s only with yourself
– Baz Lurmann – Everybody’s free (to wear sunscreen)

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Being receptive

For the soul - Anupriya kapur - May 17, 2017

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They say grief is resilient. And it comes at the strangest of moments and you are reminded of it with the strangest of things. A few days back, I woke up to drink water around 2 am and a hair pin kept on the side table reminded me of my mom. As I laid down on the bed, I started crying silently. Leo my 3.5-month-old kitten was sleeping in one corner of my bed and had been giving me a lot of attitude through the day. However, as I lay there crying in the dark, I felt her fur on my arm. She came close to me and felt my hand with her paws. Then she rested a part of her body on it. It felt like a hand of a person who really cares about me, on my head. Very reassuring. After about 15 mins or so she lifted her body but slept close to me through the night. I almost thought I’m imagining things as how can this tiny little being be so sensitive. And everyone had told me cats are selfish. But it happened again and again as last few days have been tough for me. May be we don’t understand their way of expressing love.

Leo is teaching me more ways to love. She’s teaching me to be more receptive to love.

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