I have been meaning to write this article for sometime now. However, I was hesitant as no two situations are the same and I’m no expert. But like always I would like to share what’s in my heart and my experience of managing my son for almost 3 years all by myself. Social media makes my life look pretty good and I can’t deny that it has been good and I’m blessed to be making a living out of what I love. But it’s not easy. I’m not able to give as much attention to my son as I would like to and the guilt gives me many sleepless nights. I have had days of complete meltdowns and I have screamed and pulled my hair. There are a lot of days I have taken refuge in bed and then days where I haven’t wanted to go back home. Continue Reading
The last three years have brought more change in my life than all the ones preceding them. Things became even more unhinged when I lost mom the year before last. She was the stabilizing factor not just in my life but also the anchor for my entire family. I now feel sometimes that we are adrift and rudderless. That’s not to say that all is bleak. I have also experienced more success in the last three years than I ever have. I have been lucky enough to have been out of work for almost ten and come back and create a decent hold in my field in a short span. Continue Reading
I have always preferred to give thoughtful gifts. I hate it when paucity of time makes me buy something generic. I would rather bake a tea cake with love for someone I care about than give an expensive watch. And I find shopping for gifts stressful too. I want Kabir inculcate this habit as well but I didn’t want to force it on him. So, I asked him to personalise notebooks on http://classmatestationery.com/ and create gifts for Christmas for whoever he wants. The process is very simple – you select the size, the bind, number of pages and then upload the image you want on top.
Kabir decided that he wanted to use his doodles for some and wanted Leo’s (our cat who passed away) image on one. He got really engrossed in it and made me order 12 instead of a pack of 6. He ended up thinking about what his friends loved but the biggest surprise for me was the notebook he ordered for me and it had a runner girl on it 😊 I just wish we had thought of this as the return gifts for his birthday instead. Continue Reading
Often, I have suspected, understanding life is directly correlated with unlearning a lot of what we have been led to believe.
The ability of our mind to process life and put it into neat little boxes never ceases to amaze me. Whereas life itself is interconnected at every level. That the mind will trick you is something I ought to know by now. But it still manages to pull one over on me every now and again.
Over the last few months, I had been receiving a few negative comments about my sponsored posts. Unbeknownst to me, they had apparently had an affect on me and subconsciously I also started looking at sponsored posts as something that was a break in the flow of an Instagram feed which is an honest representation of my life. Continue Reading
A couple of years back I had noticed a peculiar behaviour in my son Kabir. Every task that he did was divided in to two groups – “I’m good at it” and “I’m not good at it”. He would be frustrated and resist doing “things” he thought he wasn’t good at. He would decide it even before trying the tasks for the first time. It took me time to realise that it was the fear of failure which was stopping him. And when I look back somewhere it was my fear of failure which had trickled down to him. I would only do the things in front of him that I was good at and not let him see the side of me which wasn’t perfect. When I was baking professionally, I never showed him all the icings and cakes gone wrong. When I couldn’t park right (I still can’t), I tried to cover it by making some excuse. Continue Reading
I was recently approached by Enfagrow A+ as they wanted me to be a part of their initiative of spreading happiness this Christmas by gifting toys and storybooks to an NGO (in addition, they will also distribute Enfagrow A+ tins, clothes and educational toys). I was hesitant at first as it involved getting Kabir to give away one of his favorite toys. I was pleasantly surprised when I asked Kabir, he picked up his all-time favourite truck and handed it over to me happily. I can’t deny that I felt really proud. Continue Reading
Children’s day has always been something we celebrated in school and that tradition continues with my son too. It has meant going to a carnival organised by his school and nothing more than that. However, this year I have been thinking of ways to surprise him with something without spending too much money yet making it special. I always wanted him to grow up fast when he was a toddler and now I’m holding on to the few years l have left before he goes in to his teens when I can still do things which he might not roll his eyes for. So here are few things that can be done – Continue Reading
Anyone who has followed my blog for any length of time knows that I never claim to be a great parent. For me, it is a journey of learning that helps me evolve both as a mother and as a person. One of the most valuable lessons that I have learnt is that we, as parents, are very generous with the word ‘no’ (and strangely a video I saw recently triggered this revelation).
I hate to admit it but every year I dread the monsoons. It warms my heart that my son still loves to play in the rain just like he did when he was a toddler, yet I lose sleep over all the diseases that come along during the rainy season. Apart from viral infections, the scarier ones are like chikungunya, dengue and Zika and some which we don’t even know the names of. I have seen some of my friends suffer specially from chikungunya and still complaint of joint pains even after months of apparently recovering from it. On top of that symptoms like fever, rash, joint pain, joint swelling and muscle pain are common among all. Continue Reading
All of us know that breastfeeding a baby at least for the first six months of her/his life is most crucial and important thing for a mom to do. A mother’s breast milk is tailored specially to suit her baby’s needs. It contains antibodies that can help your baby fight off viruses and bacteria.
But benefits of breastfeeding are not limited to just for that period of time, it helps a child much later in life, too! It can help children avoid a lot of diseases that strike later in life, such as type 1 and type 2 diabetes, high cholesterol, and inflammatory bowel disease and high blood pressure! Now, why would you want to increase the risk of your child being sick by not breastfeeding? Among other perks are a developing a better understanding and bond with your baby, a better recovery for the mommy and it’s easier than other methods! Continue Reading