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Learning to unlearn

For the soul, Parenting - Anupriya kapur - February 22, 2018

Often, I have suspected, understanding life is directly correlated with unlearning a lot of what we have been led to believe. 

The ability of our mind to process life and put it into neat little boxes never ceases to amaze me. Whereas life itself is interconnected at every level. That the mind will trick you is something I ought to know by now. But it still manages to pull one over on me every now and again. 

Over the last few months, I had been receiving a few negative comments about my sponsored posts. Unbeknownst to me, they had apparently had an affect on me and subconsciously I also started looking at sponsored posts as something that was a break in the flow of an Instagram feed which is an honest representation of my life. 

Then came the HDFC campaign, which asked of me to spend time with Kabir everyday for 21 days discovering a new activity. Needless to say, I was happy but I was still looking at it as a campaign. Here I was getting to spend time with my child and share it with the world and I was worried about how it might interrupt my feed. Half way through the campaign I realised how much I actually enjoyed each of those activities and that I had created memories that would stay with me for life.

I had fallen into the trap of my mind yet again!

Once I let go, I realised that in the humdrum of everyday life, homework, house work and my work, we had been existing together and not really spending a lot of time with each other. I got to discover Kabir for the person that he is and our relationship in the manner that it has evolved. His creativity in making Boomerangs. His little eccentricities about peeling vegetables. Our ability to play as a team. His utter and absolute passion and my appreciation of the trampoline park. I never even realised but I never actually worked on making spending time with Kabir a habit!

And to think about it, I might have let go of this campaign because I thought it would feature too much sponsored content. I have always recommended things that I have personally tried and actually enjoyed. Yet, it takes just a few comments for self doubt to set in. I am sure this isn’t the last time my mind has got the better of me but I will keep at it as best as I can.

And here are a few take-aways from actually practicing “It takes 21 days to build a habit challenge” – 

1) I thought I’m spending time with Kabir everyday but it was mostly limited to school homework, projects etc. Now that he’s 10, I had taken his sense of curiosity for granted. I connected with him again at so many levels as he started talking to me about more “cool stuff”.

2) We learned to negotiate reasonably as some activities were as per him and some as per me. One of the activities that I chose was peeling peas. I got nostalgic and remembered how I used to do it for hours, Kabir couldn’t relate to it but had fun anyway and similarly I wasn’t up to jumping in the trampoline park (let me be honest, I was scared to make a fool of myself but I don’t think I have laughed so much in years.

3) It might sound strange that you need to “make it a habit” to spend time with your own child but it works. We take people we love the most for granted and this was a gentle reminder to not to.

4) I realised the importance of playing while staying fit. Children don’t do jump around and do cartwheels in order to be “fit” or “exercise” and it was a big lesson for me. I love CrossFit but subconsciously my idea of it changed. I have started enjoying it even more and take a lot of new movements as play.

5) I was amazed, yet again, at how children let their imagination run freely while we hold ourselves back in the fear of being judged. Instagram has some amazing apps like boomerang and reverse videos and I can’t deny that it was fun to use them in a very creative way.

6) Children forgive easily. Kabir is 10 and it’s still so easy for Kabir to let go of things and move on. No wonder they are so happy. Letting go is the key.

 

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Failure is a good thing

For the soul, Parenting - Anupriya kapur - January 12, 2018

A couple of years back I had noticed a peculiar behaviour in my son Kabir. Every task that he did was divided in to two groups – “I’m good at it” and “I’m not good at it”. He would be frustrated and resist doing “things” he thought he wasn’t good at. He would decide it even before trying the tasks for the first time. It took me time to realise that it was the fear of failure which was stopping him. And when I look back somewhere it was my fear of failure which had trickled down to him. I would only do the things in front of him that I was good at and not let him see the side of me which wasn’t perfect. When I was baking professionally, I never showed him all the icings and cakes gone wrong. When I couldn’t park right (I still can’t), I tried to cover it by making some excuse. Continue Reading

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Joy of Sharing this Christmas with #EnfaClaus

For the soul, Parenting - Anupriya kapur - December 29, 2017

I was recently approached by Enfagrow A+ as they wanted me to be a part of their initiative of spreading happiness this Christmas by gifting toys and storybooks to an NGO (in addition, they will also distribute Enfagrow A+ tins, clothes and educational toys). I was hesitant at first as it involved getting Kabir to give away one of his favorite toys. I was pleasantly surprised when I asked Kabir, he picked up his all-time favourite truck and handed it over to me happily. I can’t deny that I felt really proud. Continue Reading

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7 things to bring some fun this Children’s Day or otherwise :)

Parenting - Anupriya kapur - November 13, 2017

Children’s day has always been something we celebrated in school and that tradition continues with my son too. It has meant going to a carnival organised by his school and nothing more than that. However, this year I have been thinking of ways to surprise him with something without spending too much money yet making it special. I always wanted him to grow up fast when he was a toddler and now I’m holding on to the few years l have left before he goes in to his teens when I can still do things which he might not roll his eyes for. So here are few things that can be done – Continue Reading

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What made me turn into a #YESMom

Parenting, Uncategorized - Anupriya kapur - November 7, 2017

Anyone who has followed my blog for any length of time knows that I never claim to be a great parent. For me, it is a journey of learning that helps me evolve both as a mother and as a person. One of the most valuable lessons that I have learnt is that we, as parents, are very generous with the word ‘no’ (and strangely a video I saw recently triggered this revelation).

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Things to take care of during monsoons

Parenting - Anupriya kapur - September 28, 2017

I hate to admit it but every year I dread the monsoons. It warms my heart that my son still loves to play in the rain just like he did when he was a toddler, yet I lose sleep over all the diseases that come along during the rainy season. Apart from viral infections, the scarier ones are like chikungunya, dengue and Zika and some which we don’t even know the names of. I have seen some of my friends suffer specially from chikungunya and still complaint of joint pains even after months of apparently recovering from it. On top of that symptoms like fever, rash, joint pain, joint swelling and muscle pain are common among all. Continue Reading

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A breastfeeding mom needs all your support

Parenting - Anupriya kapur - August 14, 2017

All of us know that breastfeeding a baby at least for the first six months of her/his life is most crucial and important thing for a mom to do. A mother’s breast milk is tailored specially to suit her baby’s needs. It contains antibodies that can help your baby fight off viruses and bacteria.

But benefits of breastfeeding are not limited to just for that period of time, it helps a child much later in life, too! It can help children avoid a lot of diseases that strike later in life, such as type 1 and type 2 diabetes, high cholesterol, and inflammatory bowel disease and high blood pressure! Now, why would you want to increase the risk of your child being sick by not breastfeeding? Among other perks are a developing a better understanding and bond with your baby, a better recovery for the mommy and it’s easier than other methods! Continue Reading

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My experience with Rainbow Hospital

Parenting - Anupriya kapur - May 9, 2017

There have been a couple of times that as a blogger I have been given the opportunity to write about hospitals, however, I have not taken it on the basis of no experience. However, when I got the opportunity to write about Rainbow Hospitals, I gladly took up the assignment as I delivered my son at their Banjara Hills, Hyderabad clinic. And honestly, it took me some time to gather my thoughts as it has been over 9 years since I delivered.

I had a very bad experience with the initial two clinics (I don’t remember their names anymore) I visited as I was new to Hyderabad. A part of my pregnancy was spent in Delhi and the gynecologist put me on a high protein diet, the only problem being that it wasn’t from natural sources. Due to extreme nausea, I was having a tough time dealing with protein intake, apart from my regular food. As I wasn’t keeping too well a friend asked me to try Rainbow (at that time relatively new) as it was a specialty mother and child clinic. And I’m so glad that I did. Continue Reading

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Me and my mom guilt

Parenting, Uncategorized - Anupriya kapur - November 22, 2016

I have been very guilty lately. After 7 long years of not working and only nurturing, I had decided that I will work from home so I can be around my son. I tried my hand at commercial baking and didn’t enjoy it as much.  I switched to handling social media content as a freelancer. The work gives me a lot of flexibility and leaves me with enough room for my blog. Sharing my life experiences is what sustains my soul. At the same time, the blog takes a lot from me. I need to attend events for ideas, do shoots and be on the go. I feel guilty about not baking enough, cooking enough, keeping the house beautiful, keeping my accounts updated, the list is endless. On top of that as much as I try, the ‘you-don’t-spend-enough-time-with-me’ remarks from my son kill me. Did I mention that my father says I don’t spend enough time on correcting my son’s spellings, maths and diet! Continue Reading

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Flying Solo

Parenting - Anupriya kapur - July 6, 2016

This is a personal experience and not a sponsored post. 

To let my son take a solo international flight was probably one of the toughest decisions I have taken in recent times. I don’t want to sound melodramatic but it’s not easy to let go off those tiny hands in this big world.  And since it was a beautiful experience, I decided to write about it. Continue Reading

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