In the last few months, work has suddenly become very hectic. Don’t get me wrong, I am not complaining, rather pointing out an irony. You see, my blogging began from the conversations that I used to have with myself. I translated those into articles and it seemed to have resonated with some people. Now that work and Kabir and growth plans have all spiked in demand at the same point in time, I realised that the conversations with myself had almost dried up. I used to think this was blogger’s/writer’s block and I cannot seem to write anything meaningful. I struggled with this for a while until I discovered that slowing down is one very crucial component that I had been missing. I wasn’t taking time to pause between things and that began affecting me and my work.
However, I had the meaning of slowing down in my head, wrong. It doesn’t and cannot possibly mean to get away from responsibilities and a vacation, it is about taking out some bit of time every single day to soak and reflect. That’s the only way to grow and evolve. I try, even though I keep losing track but find myself coming back to the following –
Practise mindfulness – It’s so difficult to be in the present when you are constantly thinking of what to do next. I decided to try out the coloring books. I know adult coloring books seem like a fad and a way make a quick buck. But I realised it’s not so as whenever I have spent time helping Kabir with his school projects which involved coloring or painting, it engrossed me completely. So instead of buying coloring books, I just use the unused ones of Kabir. Fortunately, Kabir draws well and sometimes I color his drawings as per the colors he specifies me to use. Another thing I do is when I walk, I look down and walk only on tiled squares (the path to my parking has them), ensuring I don’t step on the lines. I know it sounds strange but I used to love doing this as a kid, and even a minute of it now helps me refresh.
Meditate – I hadn’t been meditating of late and realize that I probably wouldn’t even have felt the need to write this article if I was regular at it. Thankfully, during my recent trip to Varkala, Kerala I tried meditating on the beach. I didn’t think I could. But it’s one of my most serene experiences. It was a reminder for me to get back to it.
Letting go the fear of FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) – Being a blogger, Instagrammer and someone who manages social media content, this is by far the toughest thing to do. Accepting that I can’t be everywhere, know about everything that’s happening (every series on netflix, new movies, songs) is an important aspect I have to work on. I think giving yourself less importance is the only way to conquer FOMO.
Mixing my workouts – While I thrive on CrossFit, I miss running. Running long distance (when I used to not bother about my performance) used to help me slow down. And taking out sometime every alternate day to stretch and doing the simple yoga asanas helps. The idea is to not burn calories or lose that “winter/vacation” weight but to just be. And be in touch with your body.
NO phones during meal time – Tough, yes but doable. I eat better when I keep the phone away. I’m most tempted to check my phone specially when eating all by myself but that’s also an opportunity to be quiet. This is something I have to work on.
I am sure there are many other ways to slow down. These are what I have discovered work for me.
And sharing one of my favourite songs –
“Slow down, you move too fast
You got to make the morning last
Just kicking down the cobblestones.”